To start the year on a high note and maintain it, and experience amazing changes in your life and work, there are 5 resolves you need to make. High achievers set their sights high, but also want to do what matters. High achievers are not just looking for their own advancement but they fully understand that their success comes as a result of helping others succeed.
1. Forgive past mistakes Starting the year on a high note means leaving things behind in order to travel lighter. Ever noticed how Olympic runners don't wear much clothing? They want to be as fast as they can be. So the training is rigorous and nothing can weigh or slow them down.
Forgive your mistakes and that of others. Choose to forget and move on. We're not ignoring, but mindful that it's our race after all and will not allow the actions of attitudes of others to weigh us down.
2. Ignore past imperfections We all have work to do on ourselves but beating ourselves up about it helps no one. In fact, it's an unconscious protective strategy many use so they can blame everyone else but themselves. High achievers know and see their limits and feel the bump on their head from hitting that glass ceiling. They then go and do something about it like working with a coach to get the breakthrough.
Ignoring past imperfection means being prepared to move on. What's done is done, the question is will you let it happen again? Interestingly enough, no one really cares about your imperfections, people only worry about themselves, you don't even show up on their radar! If you need to apologize to anyone do it quickly, and bare in mind that most likely no one is keeping a record but you.
3. Accept your stories We all have an inner dialogue that goes on (and on) 24/7. These are the stories in our heads, it's the things we tell ourselves, it's the unconscious mind processing our interactions and events wanting to make sense of it all to fit in with your beliefs and rules for living.
The common stories most people experience are about feeling that they are not enough, that they don't belong, that they're an impostor and will be found out, and that they will not be loved. The only way to combat this is simply not to fight it. Accept the story, tell your own mind that you're thankful for the interesting story and get on with doing amazing thing!
I give the story a name as it is more powerful this way. I accept it as easy as placing a book on my lap and then I go off and write an article like this one. Your unconscious mind is only trying to protect you. Keeping you from getting hurt or rejected. It has no sense of right and wrong or true or false, it's there to remind you of what to be careful of. So thank it, accept the story and move on!
4. Invest in yourself This is something that only you can do. No one else will do this for you. Your boss paying for your conference doesn't count. What we're talking about here is you learning about yourself; you behavior, your thinking, your strategies and your potential. The one thing we're never good at is seeing ourselves as others see us. Only coaches can do this, and give you unbiased advice and help you come up with you own solutions.
Training of any kind only sticks at less than 20% with coaching at over 80% which is a big difference! Get a Life and Business Coach and invest both in your personal and professional life. When you do, you will get those blinkers off, see your blind spots and soon, you'll get that promotions, land that deal, connect with that person, jump over your hurdles with ease and achieve what you've always wanted.
5. Act now! Many great ideas went down the drain of your shower because you didn't write it down, didn't brainstorm and did nothing about it. I used to think my ideas were so great, now I know that everyone has great ideas, but only high achievers put them into action. So you've got some great ideas, big deal! Aim for more! To be an action taker always means you have to do the unfamiliar, the scary, and venturing into the unknown. The resolve of a high achiever is to feel the fear and do it anyway!
Stress has many names and definitions with loads of helpful and not so helpful advise online. When a definition becomes too clinical it loses it's readers and is of little use. When the help offered is a list of tips that amount to no more than a band-aid the same is also true. You've read many articles on the subject I'm sure. You're a business or career professional who experiences stress every day. You know stress comes with the territory, but at the same time you want to get on top of it because you know it's not healthy. You're in the right place!
I'm fortunate to come from the perspective of several past lives that I feel have given me a real-life rounded look of how stress works in our lives. Today, as a coach, I am able to give solutions that make sense, nothing weird, nor clinical, and that have the potential to truly change your life forever.
So let's forget the definition because it's all about how you feel at the end of the day. You want to know what is happening to you when you feel stressed. You want to know if it's just you, the fault of someone else or your circumstances. More importantly, you want to know what to do about it.
Happiness is a term that is used to describe an emotional state of joy, contentment, gratefulness, satisfaction, confidence, success, excitement and more. Happiness means different things to different people and it is still elusive to many who have every reason to be. Why is it that people with very little can be happier than those with much? It's obvious that happiness is not limited to having things. Why do we then strive to have more to make us happy? It's also obvious that many people don't really know what happiness is. Is happiness a destination, a state of mind, an emotional state or a response? It can be all of them you might say. The clue is in the language we use. We say we feel happy which means it's an emotional state. Knowing this is important for the following reasons...